SOUL ISSUES: Sex in the Nursing Home
By Reverend Liz Petipren
A recent news
article reported that a man went to visit his father in a nursing home and found the elder getting it on with
another resident. Shocked and angry, the son had his father transferred to another facility. The article
referenced a survey that showed that 53 percent of people between the ages of 75 and 85 are sexually
was rooting for the fellow’s dad. I commend him and his partner for keeping the fires alive. The 53 percent
statistic cited above denies much of what we have been told about how we are supposed to disappear from life as
we age. It is common that most of us below the age of 65 put more effort into helping folks reach old age than
into helping them enjoy it.
Age like all
human experience, is a belief system. If you believe it, it will probably happen. That is why it is so important
to keep examining our expectations, which form the platforms of our lives.
shifting to new paradigms in practically every aspect of life; economics, religion, education, medicine,
government, and business are going topsy-turvy because old ways are not working anymore and we are reaching to
find new, more meaningful ways. Aging is one of the paradigms being overhauled. What you have been told about
what happens when you get old is just not true anymore.
longer has to mean that you sicken, wither, and die. We all know people who gain life, zest, and joy as they
advance in years. They are a delight to be around because they have used life to expand, not contract. Until
now, such vital people have been the exception. In the new paradigm, they will be the rule.
We shall all
leave this world one day; how we do it is up to us. We can fade away and disappear, or we can go out in a blaze
of glory. Do you believe you have to decline with age? Or can you envision a more expansive, celebratory
Affirmation: “I am an ageless spirit. I grow more
alive every day and every year.”